A Beautiful Mind

Change..........!!

"You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book, or you take a trip, or you talk with XYZ, or you surf, or you blog and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first,restlessness. The second symptom(when hibernating becomes dangerous): absence of pleasure. That is all. It appears like an innocuous illness. Monotony, boredom, death. Millions live like this(or die like this) without knowing it. They work in offices. They drive a car. They picnic with their friends.
And then some shock treatment takes place, a person, a book, a song, and it awakens you and saves you from death. An inspiring book, a lovely song or the love of a person. They come close to you and trespass in your sheltered space. You feel your mental state is being disturbed by the warmth of either that inexplicable silence in the conversation of you and that person or the lovely song or that revolutionary paragraph of that book. You say you do not want this change. You say I am not like others and I do not want to change. I am happy in my own world. Still that shocking thing keeps alarming your thoughts now and then. You are demented by the affect it is trying to make on your mind. You hate that arousal of thoughts which force you to change your mental setup and to look forward to a change.
Change in the job scenario, or in the thought process, or budding up a new relationship. You simply do not want that alteration in your life. Why should you change? You have been born like this, and you feel you are different from others due to this. If you are still with the line of thoughts I am sorry to say that some corner of your heart really wants a change. You are not ready to accept either a new career, thoughts of some old friend or someone's love knocking desperately on the
door of your heart. Or you are revolutionized by the book you last read but regret it can't be practised pratically.
The reason you are alone in this thought process because you are afraid of that change. You are afraid that the new job might not give the freedom you are excercising in your present job. The person who loves you is an unknown personality for you....what if this person left me.....what does he/she know about myself.....these thoughts get clogged in your mind. Let me add here E.M.Forster's famous quote "You can transmute love, muddle it, ignore it... but you can never pull it out of you..."
Is the thought discussed in the book really brainstorming?? Does the writer really means it or just bragging??
Or, Is that person who asks for my love really worth it?? Where was my concentration when last time he/she was around?? Were my eyes searching for that face in the crowd and whenever they met with her/his eyes, I felt strange?? Can he/she love me without a reason or just pretending to love me for a specific reason be it beauty or brains, and that love will die off if the reason goes?? Is he/she really devoted to me and has not forgotten me even when I am away?? Can he/she wait for me or has waited in the past??
Am I not using all of my skills fully in the job?? Does the job I am looking forward to offer me challenges which I am missing here?? Do you know that there is a famous saying that "Many people quit looking for work when they find a job." ;-)
Give answers to the questions for yourself and the betterment of your life. If answers to the questions is YES. Look for quality: be it either at work,in an imporatant relationship or some reading material. You definitely need to accept that song, career, book or person in your life. You have to change your attitude with time, because we all know that "Nothing is as constant as Change."
Don't judge the book by cover and the person who loves you by looks. Ask yourself whether this job offer is going to satisfy my needs or will there I get a chance to experiment and quench my thirst for learning.
Call the person who loves you for a cup of coffee, look for depth in thought, don't make it obvious that you are interested just test them for various situations. Especially be rude and angry to them and notice the reaction. If they can tolerate your arrogance they can bear anything for you in life. Don't meet them for few weeks and see is the love-affect momentarily because they just need someone for the heck of it or its long-lasting. Check for sensibility in replies to your question. I will quote an example here, last week someone in my office went to meet a girl for marriage and imagine that girl is asking him "What is your favorite color? Which is your favourite dish? The guy was pissed off and replied that I get to eat properly only one meal i.e dinner and sorry i then don't have time to look for favorite dish and all." Send them a mail or call them for xyz reason but don't make it explicit that you are interested in them,remember you just want to check if that works without letting them know that you may like them in future, tell them you didn't get meaning of there last message ,what does that mean? When you meet or call make them feel at ease, then check for sensibility and understanding and longliving relationship.

"Give a chance to the new job offer, the love of the person, the revolutionary thoughts in the book. Who knows this change can change your life forever.......As someone has very well said,
"Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become."
Just some rough scribbling. If you are really good people don't want you to change, your PM will say you are doing good if you ask what more skills you want me to pick up. The one who loves you will just keep mum and won't say anything if you go & directly ask what do you want me to do in return for your love. What they only want is your faith in them, your PM wants productive work and your lover wants just love in return.You don't believe this, if you are bold enough go & try it, if you are not trying.........you are back to square one! ;-)

Excogitated by a_beautifulmind @ 9:04 PM